“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.” – Dalai Lama

 

 

 

“Oh, that was someone else’s responsibility, nothing to do with me”

 

“That was certainly the fault of the person that has just left the room/building/company”

 

“Oh, the universe is against me”

 

Do any of these phrases sound familiar?

 

Do you hear them more than you’d like?

 

Do you use them yourself?

 

The blame game, sloping shoulder syndrome, call it what you like. This is a default mode for some amongst us. Knowingly or unknowingly we are quick to blame circumstances outside of our own control.

 

But does it really get us anywhere?

 

Is anyone really buying it?

 

Why We Do It

Blame is an easy option.

 

Easier than working on a solution.

 

Easier than taking personal responsibility.

 

Easier than doing some self-inventory.

 

Hell, if we spend enough time blaming others and outside circumstances we even start to convince ourselves that the universe has somehow conspired against us.

 

Focus Your Energy

Why not concentrate that effort instead on finding a solution?

 

What about if we focused on how we can help not how we can avoid?

 

Why not use that energy for the greater good? To work collectively with others not against them.

 

Recognise the blame game for what it is and commit to finding a better way.

 

Commit to being part of a solution not part of a problem.

 

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